Affairs and Cheating
If you're here it's likely that the worst has happened. Perhaps you or someone that you trust has cheated. If this is the case I am very sorry for the pain that you're going through. Infidelity and trauma go hand. Toxic emotions flood into the relationship, trust is demolished, hearts broken. Choices must be made.
If you decide to get Counseling and work on saving your relationship or marriage after an infidelity then the effects of the trauma must be healed. Although it is doable, it does take time plus tremendous emotional effort to restore trust.
The anger and pain are usually too turbulent to overcome on your own. Getting some counseling with an experienced Couples Therapist can help you. Even if you decide to leave your relationship or marriage due to an infidelity the emotional fallout must still be dealt with so that you can move forward. If you are trying to figure out which path to take I can help you with some counseling.
If there is a chance to survive an affair you will need the tools, guidance and support that counseling can give you
As a Therapist I have dealt with these kinds of relationship problems many times and I know that counseling can often make a positive difference.
People need to work through a lot of different feelings and thoughts when infidelity occurs.
Why did this happen? How could this happen? How long has this been going on? Is it the only time? Will you do it again? Should we break up over this? Can I ever trust you again?
If you decide to stay together know that it won't be easy; there is no quick recovery from the loss of trust. Also know that many couples do get past it, and some eventually thrive. If you find yourself in this situation I can help you figure out why it happened and whether it's possible, in your case, to get past it.
Feel free to email me about this matter and let’s see if an appointment with me is the next step for you.
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I look forward to hearing from you.
Dona Laressa Desmond, PhD
CPC CA LMFT
Infidelity Help for Couples
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